Because I've been dealing with bone-crushing fatigue for years, I have studied how to get help when needed. I've even lectured on the subject. Step one: determine what you need. Step Two: ASK. This is drastically oversimplified, but you get the idea. Asking for help is hard, often because I don't know what I need. If I do, I usually can't explain.
When I'm that tired, I forget everything I've learned.
So I was very interested in this article by Courtney E. Martin called "Bone Tired and Ready to Be Bossed Around."
Courtney notes that when people experience bone-crushing fatigue (like any new parent, perhaps), it's hard to ask for help:
Because there is a place beyond tired — bone tired — where you don’t even have the wherewithal to ask for what you need. When you’re in this state of mind, kind humans offer up their time and talent to you, but somehow you can’t receive it. You’re in a fog of exhaustion where you can only see an arms length ahead: reply to this email, return this call, drink this coffee, do this dish, survive, barely.
I have to ask myself,
At the end of her article (which I recommend you read for yourself), the author wants to work toward being more pro-active in helping where she sees a need. She wants to step it up and be the person who makes the decisions for someone in this confused state. I'm not sure how I would react to be "bossed around" even if it is in my best interest.